Ladies, let’s be real — there’s a moment every month when we transform.
One second, we’re graceful, put-together, and radiating positivity.
The next, we’re snapping at loved ones, questioning our entire existence, and crying because a dog in a commercial looked too cute.
Welcome to the pre-menstrual rollercoaster, where hormones throw a full-blown rave in our bodies, and our dark side unapologetically takes center stage.
The Science Behind the Madness
Before we go on blaming the universe, let’s talk about what’s actually happening.
PMS (Pre-Menstrual Syndrome) is the result of fluctuating hormones, particularly estrogen and progesterone.
As they rise and fall like an unpredictable stock market, they affect neurotransmitters like serotonin, which is responsible for keeping our mood in check.
So, when serotonin levels drop, cue the irritability, mood swings, and existential dread.
Simply put, it’s not you — it’s your biology.
And no, you’re not “overreacting.”
Science says so!
But it doesn’t stop at mood swings.
PMS also manifests in physical symptoms like bloating, headaches, fatigue, and even food cravings that feel borderline obsessive.
Ever found yourself in the kitchen at 2 AM, aggressively assembling a peanut butter and pickle sandwich while contemplating the meaning of life?
That’s PMS working its magic.
Why Does PMS Bring Out Our Dark Side?
Ever notice how, right before your period, you suddenly have zero patience for nonsense?
Your tolerance for loud chewing plummets, and the smallest inconvenience feels like a personal attack?
That’s because, during this time, our emotional filter disappears.
PMS unveils our rawest, most unfiltered selves — the version of us that doesn’t have the energy to pretend.
It’s like our subconscious finally grabs the mic and says, “I have a few things to say!” — and oh, does she have thoughts.
This means:
- We see things clearly – No more sugarcoating! If something’s been bothering you, PMS will make sure you confront it.
- We speak our truth – That thing your partner did two weeks ago? You suddenly must discuss it. Right now.
- We release pent-up emotions – Crying over a sad song? Absolutely. Laughing hysterically at a meme? That too.
- We embrace our inner villain – Not in a toxic way, but in a powerful way. PMS reminds us that we are not to be messed with.
There’s also the issue of social tolerance.
Normally, we might let minor annoyances slide.
But PMS?
Oh no, it demands justice.
That co-worker who always leaves their dirty dishes in the office sink?
Unacceptable.
That person who texted “K” instead of a proper response?
How dare they?!
Our pre-period selves refuse to put up with the nonsense we usually ignore, and honestly, maybe that’s not a bad thing.
PMS also reveals deeper truths.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or underappreciated, this is when those emotions bubble to the surface.
It’s not irrational — it’s real.
Your body is amplifying your true feelings, and while they may seem extreme in the moment, they’re valid and deserve attention.
The Silver Lining: PMS is Low-Key Empowering
Though it feels like our inner supervillain is in control, there’s actually something kind of amazing about it.
PMS makes us feel everything intensely, which means we get a rare, unfiltered insight into what’s really been brewing under the surface.
Your pre-period self is your most honest self.
She doesn’t put up with nonsense, she stands up for what she wants, and she’s incredibly intuitive.
Maybe instead of suppressing her, we should listen to her.
What if PMS isn’t just about mood swings but about revealing the things we usually push aside?
Think of PMS as your personal emotional audit.
The feelings that intensify during this time are often real concerns that we bury in our day-to-day lives.
Maybe you’re feeling unappreciated at work, frustrated in a relationship, or just mentally exhausted.
PMS amplifies these feelings, not to torment you, but to force you to pay attention.
Managing the Chaos
Of course, knowing why PMS happens doesn’t make it any easier.
But there are a few things that might help :
- Movement – Light exercise, stretching, or even a short walk can help balance emotions.
- Dark chocolate – It’s rich in magnesium, which helps regulate mood (and let’s be honest, chocolate fixes almost everything).
- Hydration & healthy foods – Caffeine and sugar might seem comforting, but they can make symptoms worse. (Still, if you need that pizza, you do you.)
- Journaling – Write down your thoughts. You may notice PMS is revealing patterns you didn’t see before.
- Letting yourself feel – You’re not “too emotional.” You’re human. Give yourself grace.
- Herbal teas & supplements – Chamomile, ginger, or magnesium supplements can help ease mood swings and physical discomfort.
- Setting boundaries – If you know you get irritable, let those around you know you might need extra space. There’s no shame in taking time for yourself.
- Deep breathing & meditation – Even five minutes of mindfulness can help you ground yourself when emotions feel overwhelming.
- Laughter therapy – Watch a comedy special, call your funniest friend, or scroll through memes. Laughter releases feel-good endorphins that can balance out the chaos.
- Indulging in self-care – Whether it’s a bubble bath, skincare routine, or just lying in bed doing nothing, taking care of yourself is non-negotiable.
Conclusion: Your PMS Self is a Queen
Instead of fearing the storm that comes with PMS, what if we embraced it?
What if we recognized that this version of us — the one who feels deeply, speaks boldly, and refuses to settle — is actually pretty badass?
Your PMS self isn’t your enemy.
She’s your unfiltered, unapologetic, take-no-nonsense alter ego.
And honestly?
She deserves some respect.
So, next time she shows up, maybe give her a little nod in the mirror and say, “I see you, queen. Let’s get through this together.”
And remember, PMS isn’t just a burden — it’s a biological and emotional reset.
’s your body’s way of forcing you to slow down, tune in, and take care of yourself.
So, honor your emotions, give yourself permission to feel, and ride the wave like the powerful, intuitive force that you are.
Has PMS ever made you feel like a completely different person?
Let’s talk about it in the comments!
